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"I really wanted to be a Mom and I really wanted a baby. Daddy and I knew that there was a baby somewhere in the world who really needed us, too. Remember the people you met last summer? They helped us find each other so that we could be a family. And we are. And that's better than chocolate."
"It was ME ME ME!!"
"You bet it was," she replied.
He then alerted her that she had just passed the karate studio; he rolled his eyes at his nutty mom.
She told me that when she dropped him off, she went and got a donut. "Only one?" I asked.
I shared this conversation with Ronny Diamond, Spence Chapin's director of Adoptive Counseling, and she felt that my friend was right on track. "She answered the questions directly without saying too much, or getting off the topic. She told him that she and his father wanted to be parents, that he needed parents, and someone put them together. When you think about it, that's what adoption is all about." She adds that, at another time, "She can fill in more details about why he needed parents."
SUGGESTED READING:
Raising Adopted Children
By Lois Ruskai Melina
Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child: Making Sense of the Past
By Betsy Keefer & Jayne Schooler
Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self
By David Brodzinsky